Loving a partner with Asperger’s can be both challenging and rewarding On my first date with Mike — we’ve been partners now for 24 years – he asked me “Are we on a date?” And the second date, he asked “Are we still dating? I thought it was so sweet and [...]
IMAGO Therapy & the first two Stages of Love: Romantic Love & Power Struggle This video talks about my workshops on IMAGO Relationship Therapy. I describe the first two stages of love and what attracts us to a partner and what causes conflict. The next video will be [...]
The final stage of love: Real Love Here I talk about how couples make it to real love, love that is based on reality. I talk about the turtle and the hailstorm as well as how we are attractive to familiar love. It is no accident we are [...]
Are You a High T or a Low T? Jerry and Linda came to me to help them with their marital problems. He felt that she had tricked him into marrying her by “pretending” to have a high sex drive, and believed that Linda was now withholding sex in an [...]
FROM A SCIENTIFIC PERSPECTIVE, SEX ADDICTION IS NOT REAL. Problematic sexual behavior, on the other hand, is very real and consumers need to be protected from sex addiction therapists who are not adequately trained in human sexuality. Founded in 1967, the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) [...]
What if we thought of monogamy as a spectrum? "The study revealed two important findings. First, millennials like myself are less interested in monogamy than our elders are. Second, millennials don’t view monogamy as all or nothing. We realize that, like sexuality and gender, relationships can exist on a spectrum. And [...]
AASECT Releases Historic Position Statement on Sex Addiction Sex therapy certifying organization cannot endorse sex addiction model. On Nov 29, 2016, the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists released a historic position statement about the sex addiction model. Click here to read more.
Looking for a Third? These Guys Are Down Read an article where I am interviewed about why straight men enjoy three-ways. ...straight men do want to have threesomes and explore their sexual boundaries. But the fact is the experiences, like the apps that enable them, can be glitchy." https://features.wearemel.com/looking-for-a-third-these-guys-are-down-10f1076fcd4#.t3rbsdcah [...]
Can Porn Enhance a Couple’s Sex Life? Dr Joe Kort offers therapy to couples and notes that many women remain wary of porn, especially if they have caught their male partner watching it in secret. They will often equate this discovery with real-life infidelity. However, “porn can absolutely be a [...]
Misandry: The Invisible Hatred of Men Men face many microaggressions that we rarely think about Misandry I been noticing more and more microaggressions toward men, but I’ve found surprisingly little discussion of this trend. There is a word most people have never heard of: Misandry, meaning hatred of men. It [...]
