Lessons on Grief Playing the Long Game of Self-Compassion, Self-Respect, and Patience Grief is an inevitable component of life. Eventually we all experience it in varying degrees or doses. Grief can mean mourning a plan or project that didn’t pan out, a career coming to a close or a missed [...]
The Body is the Portal to Psychological Health Healing Begins with Being Present to it I came to the type of therapy I now practice from having worked as a firefighter, an emergency medical technician, and then spent years in crisis and suicide-prevention work. Ultimately, these experiences enabled me to [...]
Have You Negotiated Your Monogamy? Most relationships contain unstated assumptions. Couples often fight over contracts they’ve never made. –Marty Klein, sex therapist When I first work with couples, I always ask about their relationship status regarding monogamy or open relationships. Are you monogamous? Do you have an open relationship? Are you polyamorous? Are [...]
Adopted and Rejected How to Manage It All I was adopted when I was seven days old. The good news is I get to celebrate two birthdays – the day I was born and the day I was adopted. Here is the sad news: I found my biological mother, but [...]
Work Stress: Don't Let It Go Into Crisis Mode I often see clients who are in work crisis mode, as I call it. They’ve been in a professional environment with long, successful careers, and then, something changes. Sometimes it’s a new boss with a toxic management style, or suddenly they have an [...]
How to Support a Partner Who Has Experienced Sexual Trauma It doesn’t matter what happened or where it happened. What does matter is how you support the person you love who is trying to heal from sexual trauma. How do you begin? Any erotic stimulus can retrigger the experience. The [...]
How to Talk with Your Kids - at Any Age - About Sex Parents often ask me … “At what age should we have the talk?” “What am I going to say?” “What if I say the wrong thing?” “I am uncomfortable having these conversations; is it okay to avoid [...]
My Transitioning Journey: Acceptance and Validation Aren't Easy to Find I remember going to a drag party in college and dressing drag. I felt I could be more myself in drag and others observed they saw me more clearly. I felt I was in the right personal space, and it [...]
Samantha Wynn Greenstone knows her husband is gay, okay? She knew he was gay when they met in a San Diego production of “Fiddler on the Roof.” She knew hewas gay when he proposed. She knew he was gay when they got married in November. He’s not bisexual. She’s not in denial. That hasn’t stopped them [...]
Level of fear rises in LGBTQIA community, but we can combat it! The opposition to diversity and inclusion today is growing stronger and louder. Millions of Americans legitimately are afraid. It seems as if a relentless and unprecedented attack targeted on the LGBTQIA community is gaining dangerously rapid momentum with [...]