Every Couple Should Be Having Two Conversations
Every couple should be having 2 conversations One about the relationship and another about the sexual part of their relationship.
Loving a Partner with Asperger’s Can Be Both Challenging and Rewarding
Loving a partner with Asperger’s can be both challenging and rewarding On my first date with Mike — we’ve been partners now for 24 years – he asked me “Are we on a date?” And the second date, he asked “Are we still dating? I thought it was so sweet and [...]
IMAGO Therapy and the first two Stages of Love: Romantic Love and Power Struggle
IMAGO Therapy & the first two Stages of Love: Romantic Love & Power Struggle This video talks about my workshops on IMAGO Relationship Therapy. I describe the first two stages of love and what attracts us to a partner and what causes conflict. The next video will be [...]
The final stage of love: Real Love
The final stage of love: Real Love Here I talk about how couples make it to real love, love that is based on reality. I talk about the turtle and the hailstorm as well as how we are attractive to familiar love. It is no accident we are [...]
Are You a High T or a Low T?
Are You a High T or a Low T? Jerry and Linda came to me to help them with their marital problems. He felt that she had tricked him into marrying her by “pretending” to have a high sex drive, and believed that Linda was now withholding sex in an [...]
What if we thought of monogamy as a spectrum?
What if we thought of monogamy as a spectrum? "The study revealed two important findings. First, millennials like myself are less interested in monogamy than our elders are. Second, millennials don’t view monogamy as all or nothing. We realize that, like sexuality and gender, relationships can exist on a spectrum. And [...]
Looking for a Third? These Guys Are Down
Looking for a Third? These Guys Are Down Read an article where I am interviewed about why straight men enjoy three-ways. ...straight men do want to have threesomes and explore their sexual boundaries. But the fact is the experiences, like the apps that enable them, can be glitchy." https://features.wearemel.com/looking-for-a-third-these-guys-are-down-10f1076fcd4#.t3rbsdcah [...]
Can Porn Enhance a Couple’s Sex Life?
Can Porn Enhance a Couple’s Sex Life? Dr Joe Kort offers therapy to couples and notes that many women remain wary of porn, especially if they have caught their male partner watching it in secret. They will often equate this discovery with real-life infidelity. However, “porn can absolutely be a [...]
Guest Blogger R. Shelly Loomus, JD, MSW: “The Best Interests of Children in High-Conflict Divorces” (Conflict Management)
Guest Blogger R. Shelly Loomus, JD, MSW: "The Best Interests of Children in High-Conflict Divorces" (Conflict Management) Guest Blogger R. Shelly Loomus, JD, MSW, explores step-by-step strategies that have successfully helped people manage their divorce-related conflicts in her new book, Winning Your High-Conflict Divorce: Strategies for Moms and Dads. "The Best Interests of Children [...]
The 4 Stages of Coming Out as a Couple in a Mixed Orientation Marriage
The 4 Stages of Coming Out as a Couple in a Mixed Orientation Marriage In a mixed-orientation marriage, one spouse is straight and the other is gay or bisexual. The Straight Spouse Network (www.ssnetwk.org) cites that there are more than two million mixed orientation couples. Therapists will often [...]