Sometimes Therapy Is Not About Making You Feel Better Feeling better is the end goal, but the process is not always comfortable. "I had all my therapy on the show in front of everybody." –Oprah Winfrey on a recent episode of the Drew Barrymore Show, in reference to her successful self-titled talk show. [...]
Loneliness – the silent epidemic! The loneliness epidemic isn’t slowing, in fact, among black and LGBTQ+ folks the rates are increasing alarmingly. Tragically, the progress our country has made over the past several decades seems to be quickly slipping backward. Black and LGBTQ+ communities are living with greater stress as [...]
Are you being loved the way you want to be loved? In an episode of the television show, Blue Bloods, Jamie didn’t know his wife Eddie’s love language, so he greeted her with all five when she arrived home from work. This is pretty normal in most relationships. The way [...]
Are you considering a polyamorous relationship? What about a consensually non-monogamous relationship? Did you know that one in five Americans has tried a consensual non-monogamous relationship? That means one in 20 is in one right now. Extensive research shows that these individuals are experiencing fulfilling, emotionally intimate and supportive relationships. [...]
You can free yourself from anxiety Trauma can happen to anyone, and it can surface in many unforeseen ways. As a Marine Corps veteran, I understand the emotional and mental health effects of combat. When you serve in the military, you can be exposed to different traumatic events than civilians, [...]
Reduce STI stigma; talk about it and get some help You are not alone! You’ve received an STI diagnosis. What do you do? How will your partner react? What will your friends and family think about you? Is this the end of intimate relationships for you? You are consumed with [...]
Are you focused on conforming to what is expected of you instead of what you really want? Are you a people pleaser? Are you a people pleaser? Are you focused on conforming to what is expected of you instead of what you really want? Societal pressures, family dynamics, work obligations [...]
Reduce anxiety through simple steps Want to reduce your anxiety? Take a walk, breathe and get an ice cream! It can be that simple! I work with countless individuals who experience a lot of pain medically and mentally from anxiety, which often leads to depression. They come into my office unable to [...]
Individuals living with neurodiversity may learn differently or act differently in social settings. They possess a unique set of challenges, perspectives and struggles, but also talents and strengths. When I was young, I had ADHD, but it was not diagnosed until I was 25 years old. Growing up, I knew [...]
The key to relationships: shared connections It’s true in both monogamy and consensual non-monogamy In my therapy practice, I have come to be known for my focus on consensual non-monogamy. That is, dealing with clients who are considering everything from swinging, to opening a relationship, to polyamory. Many of us [...]